Talk about Self Esteem

I work with people all the time and let me tell you this, I meet all sorts of people, humble, polite, grumpy, moody, growly, you-need-to do-this rightnow types, hold my hand types, I-am-so-dumb-you-know-more-so-it-only-makes-sense-that-you-help-me types, i-am-right-and-you-are-wrong types and most commonly those who as how I am doing but don't really care to listen, some thing like, "Hey how do doing, i just need this form filled" or etc etc, before I get a chance to say I am fantastic, they have said one whole paragraph about why there are at here.

Today I want to talk about one woman in particular, who knew me from my previous job, sort of like a I-know-you-so-I-will come-to-you kind of thing. So I asked her "How are you?" She shrugged her shoulders like, eh just going. She told me why she was here at my window, and I started helping her, when her cell phone rang; she talked. I asked, "Are you alright." I felt something was not right, she said "its my fiance, I just get tired of talking to him." Whoa, I was shocked;
I said, "And he is just your fiance rightnow...." (implying what will happen when you get married, wake up lady." She sortof pushed her cellphone in front of my face, and like "this is him." I looked at the screen I saw a handsome black man with two white children (boy and girl in their early teens having a good time with the kids." "Hey he looks familier"I said, "Does he live in North Portland?" "No,he just came from Tennesse," She replied. "Ummm, so whats the problem," I questioned her. "I don't know what he likes in me. Look at him, he is soo handsome, what does he see in me?" she blurted.
I felt my energy taking a dive southwards. "Sure she needs a makeover, and good clothes, and sexy clothes, and dye her hair darker, and dress her curvy body nicely. But this white woman saw herself as failure. The black man in the picture, standing in the park with this woman's two children found her attractive nonethless. Just the way she was. And here she was using negativity which might one day push him away from her and she will ask "Why does this happen to me?"
He is her fiance, and she gets tired talking to him?

What this made me realize? After she left from my window I felt a surge of gratitue for all that I have in my life. I thanked God for the wonderful, mindful soulmate he gave me, whom I am completely, fully in love with. I felt gratitue for my self-esteem and my body-image.

Things that we take for granted sometimes comes across when we see others not behaving like us.

What do you think dear reader? Have you had any situations like this? Share your thoughts and opinions.

Have a great day!